Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.
Good company is often hard to find, but completely worth the search! I am sure you have heard the saying, “You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.” I hope that is not a scary thought for you! If so you may need to reevaluate who you spend your time with.
I have gone through different seasons of life and I have watched friends come and go. I have had to learn it is just simply a part of life. It is part of growing and developing as a person. Sometimes it is painful to let go of bad relationships, but in return it will be rejuvenating to the soul to enter into new relationships that are healthy and life giving.
Each person must learn to recognize how to find good company and how to keep good company. The pain we experience in both romantic relationships and friendships is the pain of discovering the wrong kind of company to have around. I went through this myself. I am someone who receives love through spending quality time with those who are close to me. I value someone sitting down and sipping coffee with me, but at one point I had at least five close friends who would cancel every time we scheduled a meeting. I was also personal training at the time and the people I was training would cancel five minutes before they were supposed to show up. Not to mention, at the same time I was volunteering for a non profit where I spent most of my time working for people who did not develop a personal relationship with me outside of the workplace.
Once I evaluated the company that was surrounding me recreationally and professionally I realized most of my relationships were transactional. It was more about what I could give them rather than a mutual exchange of love. This may work for some people, but considering I value quality time and people who follow through with commitments it left me feeling discouraged, unloved, and hurt. I did not feel valued as a friend, and I did not feel respected for the services I was offering. As a result I was run down emotionally, and I was feeling discouraged professionally. Company that leaves you feeling anything other than refreshed, sharpened, and inspired are likely not good company at all.
It is important to cleanse your relationships if they are no longer life giving. It does not mean the relationship failed or served no purpose at all. It means that you may have out grown what once was. There is no shame in that! It is exercising self respect and proper boundaries.
Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.
If you want to be successful in life do not surround yourself with those who have a negative outlook on where they are going. If you want to have a positive self esteem do not surround yourself with people who are constantly criticizing themselves in the mirror or people who negatively critiquing you. If you want to be an industry professional, do not spend the majority of your time with people who are questioning every other second whether they are good enough to make it. If you want to be married do not entertain hopeless conversations concerning someones desperation to find love. Take my advice. I entertained unfruitful relationships for way too long. You cannot afford to have company that negatively affects where you are heading in life.
Look for people who inspire you to grow in character, wisdom, and skill. Take the time to consider the relationships around you? Are they causing you to be a better person or allowing you to remain comfortable and stagnant? Search for good company. Look for those who believe the best in you, look out for you, and continually pursue a deeper relationship with you. This is good company!
